One of the most common yet overlooked mistakes when planning a proposal is neglecting to have open discussions about marriage expectations beforehand. It might seem like a given, especially if you’ve been in a relationship for a while, but assuming that you and your partner are on the same page can lead to unpleasant surprises. Before you ask, "Will you marry me?" it’s crucial to understand if your partner is ready for that commitment and if they share the same vision for the future.
Marriage expectations can differ widely depending on background, family dynamics, or personal values. Some people might have been dreaming of this moment for years, while others may need more time to feel ready. Some couples might want a small, intimate wedding, while others envision a large celebration with family and friends. Understanding these differences can avoid putting pressure on your partner or creating expectations that they aren’t prepared to meet.
Having open conversations about marriage—what it means to both of you, and what each of you expects in the future—sets a stronger foundation for your proposal. By discussing these topics beforehand, you’ll ensure that both of you are aligned in your expectations, leading to a smoother proposal experience and a more fulfilling marriage journey ahead.