In many parts of the world, getting engaged isn’t just about two people falling in love — it’s about two families, sometimes even two communities, coming together. While Western culture often places emphasis on the individual proposal moment between the couple, many global traditions approach engagement as a deeply communal milestone.
In countries like India, Nigeria, or parts of the Middle East, engagements often involve formal ceremonies where extended family and friends are invited to celebrate the union. It’s not just a party—it’s a cultural rite of passage, complete with rituals, blessings, and symbolic exchanges. In Jewish traditions, family involvement is also key, with customs like the “tna’im,” where families agree on the engagement terms, or the “vort,” an engagement party with prayers and blessings.
Even in smaller, less formal gatherings, family often plays a central role. From giving their blessing to participating in engagement ceremonies or celebrations, their presence and approval can carry deep emotional weight—especially in cultures where elders and community leaders are highly respected.
If your background is more individualistic, these customs might seem overwhelming or unnecessary. But they offer something powerful: a sense of unity and shared joy. Involving your families and communities—when it’s done with love and consent—can amplify the celebration and create memories that live far beyond the engagement itself. Ultimately, love is personal, but commitment is communal. Sharing the joy can make your engagement even more meaningful.